The following information is from "Looking Ahead . . . a handbook of survivorship issues" as published by the Lakeridge Health Corporation.
How you feel about your sexuality, about being a man or a woman, has an impact on how you relate to others, especially in intimate relationships.
During treatment for cancer, your interest in sex may have been low or non-existent, as you dealt with other physical and emotional stresses of cancer.
Now that treatment is completed, you may feel more like resuming your previous sexual activities, or exploring new ways to demonstrate intimacy.
Sometimes physical or emotional changes may prevent your from having the same sexual experience as before cancer or cancer treatment. There are many non-sexual ways to be close to your partner, such as intimate touching, caressing, massaging and kind words. Some people feel that a new closeness has developed because of the experience of a cancer diagnosis.
Changes in body image, fatigue, and hormonal changes can also affect how you feel sexually. These changes may need to be shared with your partner.
What can help?
Communicate - share your feelings, desires and concerns with your intimate partner or someone you feel close to. Your partner may also have some concerns that need to be expressed and discussed with you.
Experiment - explore different forms of sexual activity. Be patient. Be playful. Choose the time and activity that is right for you.
Don't be afraid to seek information and support
- Speak to your nurse, social worker or doctor. Help may be available through a number of resources.
- Referral to a therapist or counsellor may also be helpful.
- "Sexuality and Cancer" booklets (published by the American Cancer Society) are available for men and women. These can be obtained at the Oncology Clinic and at Hearth Place.
- Water-based lubricants may relieve some of the discomfort associated with intercourse. These can be purchased from the shelf at your local pharmacy.
- Other devices may be available to enhance sexual pleasure.
- Support groups that include other cancer survivors may be beneficial. Experience and willingness to share stories may be helpful to the new survivor.
